Sex and Football

The Matthew Johns story last week was bigger than the Budget when it came to headline news. A story of an event that happened 7 years ago was again thrust into the spotlight after the anonymous woman involved in a group-sex incident with Matthew Johns and other NRL players appeared on the ABC's Four Corners in a story about sex and sport - link to the website here.

Tracy Grimshaw then interviewed Matthew Johns and his wife Trish on A Current Affair which you can see here. (Beware: Tracy does her usual useless job of being a 'hard hitting journo' and has so much botox in her face that it's difficult for her to react with human facial expressions).

SO - since the story broke a former colleague of the woman involved has appeared in the news saying that the girl was bragging about the group sex the next day and has basically said that she was a 'slut' anyway and just wants attention.

As of today the "Support Matthew Johns" facebook group has around 150,000 members and a lot of the comments are saying things like "she was a willing participant" and "she was bragging about it" - so seemingly the word of a former-colleague was happily accepted above the girls version of the event.

And so what? So what if the girl told her workmates what happened? So what if the girl agreed to have sex with a few NRL players? Does that mean that the footballers involved are innocent and they are morally absolved?

Is a 19 year old girl mature enough to get herself out of a situation that's gone too far? I understand that some women are willing participants in group-sex activities but there are different kinds of group-sex - there is one kind that involves mutual respect and participation on all parts and there is another kind that we hear about in relation to football "end of year trips" where a team groupie is basically treated like an animal and 'run-through' by all the boys in the team.

Is Matthew Johns a hero for cheating on his wife? Seemingly if she is stupid enough to forgive him so then should his fans.

Let's talk about the sex industry. I don't care what anyone says about glass ceilings or about women's rights there is NO equality between men and women on this earth as long as women can be bought and sold as a commodity. Which sex do you see half-naked on late night TV selling phone-porn? Which sex do you see on the billboards advertising 'mens lunch special' at the Men's Gallery? Women in our society are a product - and they might not even have to be bought with cash - maybe it's jewelry or a promise of stardom - maybe it's the wonderful pleasure of being able to say they had sex with Matthew Johns *insert sarcasm here*.

Supposedly there are prostitutes who 'enjoy' their work, but when you look at the psychological make-up of these women they are using sex the same way a lot of teenage girls use sex - to get attention/affection from another member of the human race. Some of them are using it as self-punishment. Someone said to me that some prostitutes find it 'empowering' - well if that's the only way they can have power over a man I feel really sorry for them - us intelligent women just start an argument and win it *wink*.

Many representatives of the NRL have used the 'boys will be boys' defense - in that men will have sex with a women if given the chance - supposedly it's in their genetic make up. I'm sorry, but any man who walks into a room where 10 or 11 other men are lining up to have sex with a young girl and decides that he too will line up is not a man - he is an animal. I don't care if the girl is supposedly a 'willing participant' - lining up to have sex with a girl who has just had sex with 10 other men is wrong. It is treating that woman like a piece of trash. It is taking any human aspect of that woman away and degrading her.

And how about the fact that men should be able to have self-control? Or have football players been knocked in the head so many times that they have an excuse for not evolving? The men at my work were making jokes about the "she wanted it" factor the day after the Tracy Grimshaw interview. Very evolved.

Unfortunately there are women out there who want to have sex with footballers and who have no self-respect and who ultimately make life difficult for the rest of womankind who just want to lead our lives without being called "sweetie" by bus drivers or leered at by old men at the supermarket. Unfortunately because those women are happy to be treated like pieces of meat a lot of men assume ALL women can be treated this way (-except for your mums, daughters and sisters of course).

The problem, ultimately, is that most people are stupid. Men are stupid for thinking women can be treated like shit. Women are stupid for letting men treat them like shit. Unfortunately, the stupid outweigh the intelligent and the majority rules.

* I'm going to stop there because if I continue I won't be able to stop. There is no resolution to this issue.